So a ton of people say that we are too hard on our son. We
make him do chores, he earns everything he gets, and he uses manners or is
reprimanded. If you don’t like the sound of those things stop reading now.
Here’s the thing YES we are hard on our son, but the world will be harder. Yes
he does chores at 6, but at 26 he won’t have to rely on his girlfriend to show
him how to run a washing machine. Yes he gets reprimanded for not using
manners, but we refuse to raise an entitled spoiled brat, there are way too
many of those as it is. I am raising a son who will respect the women in his
life. A man who will know the feeling of earning your keep after a hard day
work. Most importantly a man who won’t need to rely on anyone other than himself
to get things done. Those types of men are a dying breed and I refuse to let
them die with my son’s generation. If you are here because you agree and are
raising a boy who will turn into that type of man but you need help, look no
further. Momma we all need help or direction every now and then. Below you will
find directions on how we do things. He earns tokens and cashes them in to play
with his toys, or watch TV. If he has torn up a pair of shoes or ruined one of
my fabric shears he uses his tokens like money. If he doesn’t have enough to
“buy” new shoes and play with his toys then he doesn’t play. You know just like
the real world where if you have to replace your tires because you did a burn
out (No of course I’ve never!) and now you can’t go to the movies with that
friend. Same idea. He doesn’t just earn tokens for chores either. Good
behavior, good grades, or educational activities also earn him tokens. I will include
a list of things he does and how many tokens he earns for each. As well as the
cost of some common things. Good luck and remember not every child is the same
and what works for me may need to be tweaked for your home. You are trying and
that is the best thing you can do.
Chores and other
things and what it gets our 6 year old:
- Clean his room- 0 tokens- this is expected and he gets nothing but can lose tokens for not doing it.
- Make his bed- 0 tokens- Again expected
- Set dinner table- ¼ token
- Pick up after dinner- ¼ token
- Straighten Bathroom counter- ¼ token
- Wipe down dinning table- ¼ token
- Dust living room- ½ token
- Sweep driveway- ½ token
- Take out the trash- ¼ token
- Load washing machine- ¼ token
- Dump bathroom and bedroom trash- ¼ token
- Check mail- ¼ token
- Fold his clothes- ½ token
- Wipe out bathroom sink- ¼ token
- Great day at school- 1 token
- 8 educational workbook pages- 1 token
- Reading 2 books on his own- 1 token
How
he uses his tokens:
- TV time costs 1 token for 45 minutes
- A movie costs 2 tokens
- I equal 2 tokens to $1 so if he needs new shoes I make him spend 10 tokens on his shoes. He cannot use his tokens on anything else until his shoes are “paid for”
- His closet is where all his toys are kept and he get to play in his closet for 1 token for an hour and a half.
- His Lego’s are in a toy box and he gets to play in it for 1 token for an hour and a half.
You may be wondering what he does when he doesn't
have tokens? He plays outside. Outside time is always free. It burns off his
energy and leaves me a bit of “me time.”
Here is an example of a day in our home.
Carl comes home after a great day at school (1 token) and cleans the bathroom
sink (¼ token), straightens up the bathroom (¼ token), takes out the trash (¼ token)
and wipes down the table (¼ token). He then has attitude with mom and loses one
token. He uses his one token remaining to watch TV for 45 minutes then goes
outside to play for free. When he comes in he does his homework (NO TOKEN) and
asks to do workbook pages to make up his lost token. He earns another token but
it’s too late to use it as we are going into dinner and bath time routine so he
banks it for tomorrow.
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